Our new home and a gentle reminder about respect!
WELCOME! to our new web home. You might be wondering, “Why the change?” Well Blogspot.com has been experiencing issues for some time now and the latest straw that broke the knitting needle was thier deeming our blog as “spam.” What does that mean? Well read on…
I received an email requesting immediate action due to the flagging of our blog as a spam blog. So I checked it out. As it turns out, it could have been anything that flagged us, including other users. I immediately made a request for a “human review.” This review is not guaranteed and it they do not give us a timeline as to when our little blog will be released from the grips of indiscrimanant forces holding it hostage until some unkown set of mouse clicks releases it. The more I thought about this the closer I cam to the conclusion that this is ridiculous. Therefore, I followed the Frog Queen’s lead and moved us over to LiveJournal for the time being. So far the plus’s are:
1. Much faster picture uploading.
2. Much more user friendly Rich text editing.
3. More options to store and play around with pictures and video.
So far I am pleased and I do hope you are too.
The next order of business is somewhat disconcerting. For quite a while now our numbers were growing. We were fast becoming the most popular knitting group in town, and the province (from all accounts). Our group was becoming a close knit community of yarn enthusiasts intent on spreading the love of knitting. However, as of late, we’ve had a bit of a drop off in knitterly cohorts.
I’ve noticed that the past few weeks have been a bit dwindled. Fewer of us were coming to group. I originally thought that this might be due to summer holidays, work schedules, other obligations, etc. (you know TAKE has its successes with us all at one time or another). Well, that is what I thought. It appears that my thoughts were being lead down a path that did not lead to the truth.
Our group is comprised of many personalities and represents people from all walks of life. We come from a diverse background but I always felt that we melded together quite nicely and joined our differences to create a beautiful and interesting tapestry of knitterly cohorts. This is why what I am about to tell you disconcerts me.
Recently one of our members, a beautiful person whoose talents in the felting arena far outwiegh my own, decided to not return to our group. She was offended and hurt within our group. Although she tried valiantly to befriend one very strong personality within our group, she was met with rudeness and crudeness. When conversing with other members, our now past member, was continually interrupted. Her accomplishments were met with negative comments. She felt disrespected and has thus decided to not return. Her efforts of friendship and commradery were not returned and she left very early and very upset. She did say that she was very sad to have to do this, but no matter what she tried the other member did not receive her attempts at forming a friendship with the grace and respect that we should all provide to one another.
This saddens me. I began the Saskatoon Knitting Circle in an attempt to meet the knitters of Saskatoon and broaden my own circle of people. I had high hopes for this group. But, as with many situations in our lives, there always seems to be an issue around respect. Whehter it be in our professional lives, in our highschool experiences or within our own families and personal circles someone always exists that creates discomfort. Often these people are touted as bullies. In our case, however, I do believe that offender may not be aware that her behaviour is affecting people in a negative way (not everyone is a culprit here, but we must all work together to remedy this situation). Strong personalities are one thing, my friends, but when it becomes rude and inappropriate behaviour we must all take a step back and re-evaluate the way we conduct ourselves.
Feelings are a fragile entity and must be cared for with the upmost thought and consideration. We all have them, we’ve all had them hurt, yet we all end up hurting them at some point or another in our lives. Feelings come in a variety of styles, colours, and sizes:
No matter what they look like, though, all of our feelings must be respected.
Our leaving member is not the only complaint I have heard of. Others have expressed similar upset over being spoken to rudely or being ignored or have been upset by the occasional inappropriate remark (often this comes from the fact that one person may not like another and the rudeness is apparent to all). In light of this, I thought it was high time that I reminded everyone that The Saskatoon Knitting Circle’s Sunday afternoons are for everyone. All who wish to join us for some good stitching fun are welcome. However, it is up to all of us to ensure that the afternoon provides a safe and enjoyable atmosphere. Here’s a small reminder of our rights, obligations and expectations to which we are entitled:
We all have the right to participate without feeling bullied.
We all have the right to participate with an expectation of being respected and welcomed.
We all are obliged to treat others with much respect and ensure that others accomplishments are celebrated (not met with negativity).
Everyone has a right to an opinion or thought, but none of have the right to judge it.
We all researve the right to not like another personality, but we are obliged to continue to treat that person with respect.
We must all remember that feelings are fragile and can be hurt easily.
We must all remember to conduct ourselves and censure our own language in an appropriate and respectful manner.
We must all remember that everyone has the right to discuss, converse and share without being interrupted by childish comments (they truly are not humourous).
We are all friends so let us remember to keep our group a friendly and welcoming place where everyone can learn and excell in knitterly pursuits.
I would love for The Saskatoon Knitting Circle to continue. I would hate to see it come to an end due to the inappropriateness of only one. However, should this sort of behaviour continue and cause us to loose members and cause our new friends to choose to not return then the group will have to come to a close. This is not at all what I signed for nor, do I suspect, did any of you.
I do hope you join me in embracing the right to respect cycle and let us all create a wonderful environment where people are hard pressed to avoid instead of what I’m hearing from those who have experienced the lack of respect.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please feel free to post your comments and thoughts here or email them to myself or melissa